When a Man’s Battle Is Taken From Him

“Without a battle in which a man can live, the fierce part of his nature goes underground and sort of simmers there, and a stolen anger that seems to have no reason.”

“If a man does not find those things for which his heart was made—if he is never invited to live for them from his deep heart—he will look for them in some other way.”

I don’t about you, but these words written my John Eldredge in his iconic book “Wild at Heart” deeply reasonate with me.

In my more than 15 years of working with men it has been my experience that most men today don’t feel like their masculinity is needed anymore. We’re told to be “nice,” to play it safe, to avoid rocking the boat. Our raw strength, our drive, our - dare I say it - aggression; it’s been labeled dangerous or outdated. And so the wildness that God wove into us gets buried under politeness, performance, and passivity.

But that fire doesn’t disappear. It just finds a counterfeit outlet.

We chase “adventures in capitalism.”
We fight invisible battles on screens—trading stocks, arguing politics, escaping into fantasy worlds.
We pour ourselves into our jobs, our workouts, or our teams—anything that makes us feel alive again.

And yet, even in the middle of success, something still feels off. Because deep down, we were made for a real fight—a fight that costs something. A mission that requires our strength, our courage, our sacrifice.

The problem isn’t that men are too intense. It’s that our intensity has no aim. Our battle has been stolen.

When a man doesn’t believe his strength is needed, he either numbs it or misuses it.
He stops living with passion and starts living with pressure.
He stops fighting for something and starts fighting against himself.

But here’s the truth: the world desperately needs strong, wholehearted men again. Men who bring protection, not domination. Presence, not performance. Conviction, not control.

You don’t have to be a soldier to fight a battle. You just have to rise each day and say,
“I will not live small. I will not outsource my purpose. I will fight for what matters.”

Your wife needs that man.
Your children need that man.
Your brothers need that man.
And you need to be that man—for your own soul’s sake.

Because the battle isn’t the problem.
The absence of one is.

If this hit something deep in you, don’t ignore it.
You were never meant to fight alone—and you don’t have to.

Inside our Freedom Groups and KingMakers Community, men are reclaiming their purpose, healing what’s held them back, and becoming the kind of men God can trust with real responsibility. It’s a tribe of men committed to growth, strength, and mission—not perfection.

If you’re ready to step into a community that calls you higher, we’d love to hop on a call with you.

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